leadership dot #4614: questioning

I’ve talked with several people lately who are struggling because they see changes that should be made in their organization, but they aren’t in a position to make those changes. For example, inefficiencies in another department impact their ability to do the work. Lack of vision keeps people trapped in the status quo. Inconsistent accountability puts the burden on the responsible workers. Poor communication practices in one area trickle over with negative consequences for others.

Some employees are hard-wired to address the issues they notice, but these are the same ones who are getting burned out when speaking up because it often results in their being assigned as the problem-fixers (in addition to their regular duties, of course). “I try to stay in my lane, but there are so many off-ramps,” said one.

Others speak up and bear the brunt of colleagues’ wrath who don’t like the changes. “I’m willing to take the heat, but if nothing changes, what is the point?” said another.

It’s often easier for employees to keep their heads down and just plod along as they have been doing, and it’s often easier to supervise them because they don’t cause discomfort. It’s hard to be the one who raises questions or objections, and it often challenges the supervisor to act differently.

If you are the supervisor, sharpen your radar to see how the dissenters are treated in your organization. You want people who make suggestions and push for improvement. You want employees who can see the big picture and how the pieces fit together. You need people willing to speak up and propose changes. Yet those are precisely the ones who will burn out or leave if nothing comes of any of their ideas.

Remember the quote: “The biggest concern for any organization should be when their most passionate people become silent.” Embrace the questioning.

leadership dot #4549: wind

It was 52 degrees here on Friday — 17 degrees above average. If you just looked at the temperature, you would assume that people were outside soaking in the abundant sunshine…

But accompanying the heat were wicked winds with gusts up to 47 mph, making it feel like a chilly 33 degrees. So much for those shorts!

Culture is a lot like that wind — a force that permeates everything and can shift the organization. Results may be present, but if there is a negative wind as well, it will distract from how it feels to those who work there.

If you’re a supervisor, ensure that you monitor the “real feel” to learn the true state of your organization. If you only look at the “temperature” (aka output), you can miss the underlying morale issues blowing through your culture.

leadership dot #4546: balanced

A minister observed that young mothers make one of two common mistakes in raising their children. One is overestimating their child’s innocence, causing them to dismiss any faults and find it hard to believe their sweet cherub could do anything wrong. The other is when they underestimate the child’s potential to excel and the mother’s overprotectiveness limits the child’s ability to grow.

I believe similar circumstances apply to new managers. Some bosses are blinded to the faults of their employees and may overlook transgressions because of the employee’s performance output or charisma. Other supervisors micromanage their staff members and demand oversight of all actions, thus stifling their employees’ autonomy and motivation. Neither is healthy for anybody.

Finding the right balance is a challenge when you’re a new supervisor (and I imagine that when you’re a new parent). I shudder to think of how hard I was on my earliest staff before I became more comfortable with myself and my style. The early days are when an experienced person is helpful to lend perspective and advice.

Even if you’re not new in your role, take a moment to reflect on where you land on the spectrum of overestimating and overprotecting. The sooner you can make adjustments, the better.

Source: Wise Mother’s Great Expectations: Cultivating Godly Potential in Children by Bob Russell, May 12, 2024

Thanks, Brian!

leadership dot #4523: progress

In many of my workshops, I am asked about motivation and how to inspire people to do what needs to get done. It’s a challenge people face in their personal lives as well, needing the gumption to dig deep and get out of bed to go to the gym or to tackle that lawn.

Researchers studied over 12,000 entries in daily diaries workers kept to reflect on their work. The results showed: “Of all the things that can boost emotions, motivation, and perceptions during the workday, the single most important is making progress in meaningful work.”

Think about that: making progress is the big motivator, but too many times we operate in ways that obfuscate progress. We fail to develop benchmarks that can help people see they are moving ahead. We don’t take the time to tell stories, save documents, and reflect back on how far we have come. We don’t set clear goals so we know when we can plant the flag and celebrate the completion of this phase.

Making progress in meaningful work. Keep that front and center as you give assignments, plan projects, make resolutions, or have one-on-one conversations with your team. How will you know when you are doing it?

Source: Study by Teresa Amabile and Steven Kramer as cited in Reset by Dan Heath, 2025, page xxi.

leadership dot #4503: solo travelers

My sister just returned from a three-week cruise where she traveled without a companion. Fortunately for her, Norwegian took steps to ensure that she was not alone. Every night, the crew hosted a “solo travelers meet-up” with an activity (trivia, bingo, etc.), conveniently timed from 5-5:30 pm. This gathered the group and made it easy for some of them to go to dinner together and then follow dinner by sitting together at the entertainment. All this togetherness carried over to create initial friendships, where “solos” connected via social media, shared tips and research about port stops, went on excursions together, and even had their formal photo-on-the-steps taken as a group. “It made the trip,” she said, which is good not only for her but for Norwegian in attracting the growing solo traveler market.

Many organizations take care to onboard new individuals when they first start their employment but I wonder if they couldn’t go further and take a lesson from Norwegian and take steps to bring the “newbies” together. New employees are like solo travelers — they have yet to make connections in the organization and must navigate most things on their own. Beyond pairing the new employee with a buddy, could larger organizations hold the equivalent of “solo traveler meet-ups” once a week or once a month, conveniently timed before the lunch hour or before an all-hands-on-deck meeting, encouraging those who are new to bond with others in their situation, even if they are from different departments?

When I was on campus, we informally held a similar “New Kids” lunch once a month where new employees shared things they had learned beyond what was covered in orientation — policies, norms, and perks. It helped immensely in connecting us to the organization and each other.

Think about what you can do for your “solos.” It’s in everyone’s interest to make for smooth sailing.

leadership dot #4501: ruby slippers 2.0

One of my favorite analogies is the Ruby Slippers (dot #143) which I use as a visual cue to help people know that they are empowered to do much more than they often feel they can.

But lately, I’ve noticed that empowerment isn’t holding people back, rather it’s the ability to articulate a vision of what they want to achieve. Dorothy didn’t click her heels and say “I wanna get out of here,” or “There’s no place like the Midwest.” No, she knew clearly that she wanted to go home — she had a specific vision of her ultimate goal. (Note that Dorothy had to click her heels three times — achieving any goal takes repetition as well as clarity.)

Be like Dorothy and be specific about where you’re trying to go. Chances are you’ll ultimately be able to get there if you can describe where “there” is.

Authentic Ruby Slippers in the Smithsonian

leadership dot #4497: watch and learn

I started watching The Resident, where a first-year intern complains to the nurse practitioner about the gruff manner of Conrad, the third-year resident to whom he has been assigned. Here is her response to him:

“Let’s say your car has a rattle. So you take it to a mechanic and this guy’s kind, polite, eager to help. For two days, he runs every test in the book. And then he calls you and says it’s gonna set you back a thousand bucks. So you max out your credit card and on your drive home, guess what? You hear the same rattle. Or, you could take the same car with the same rattle to another mechanic. And this guy is rude, dismissive, arrogant, but he tightens a bolt, fixes the rattle, charges you five bucks. Problem solved. Watch and learn. Conrad’s the guy who tightens the bolt.”

It reminds me of the adage that in every job you should either earn or learn. Ideally, you’d learn from a nice guy but you can put up with a lot if you’re learning from someone who is less than pleasant. As a good friend says: “Nice is nice, if what you need is nice.” If you need to learn, maybe nice is negotiable.

leadership dot #4469: watching

A sneaky but clever device for parents to extract the best behavior from their children is a Santa Cam — a realistic (but fake) camera that reminds kids Santa is watching them. It probably only works during this time of year, but it could do the trick.

There is no such thing as a “supervisor cam” so supervisors need to be more intentional about holding their teams accountable for performance. If you let deadlines pass or tasks go undone without follow-up or consequences, it signals to your staff that the actions don’t matter, or at least timeliness doesn’t. To establish the expectations, you may need to do some reminders (“The budget is due next week, see me if you have questions but I expect it by end of day Tuesday”) but by golly, if that budget isn’t there when you walk in Wednesday morning, you need to be on the phone.

If you want others to be accountable, you need to be clear about what success looks like and address it when someone doesn’t comply. Expecting good behavior without external motivation is an unrealistic ask from most people. Let them know that Santa is watching.

leadership dot #4459: uncovered

I had a student take me up on my offer to talk through her final project if she got stuck. She called and I asked her a few questions — and even though we were on the phone, I could see the light bulb go off over her head. I gave no solutions or even suggestions, but my questions helped her see that she already had the answers, they just weren’t framed that way.

I tried to model this same behavior as a supervisor — providing more questions than answers and helping others see that, in more cases than not, the information that was eluding them was there all along. It’s also why the strategy of asking yourself what advice you would give your friend in your situation often resolves the issue — you know what to do, but you just can’t see it from your current perspective.

If you find yourself at an impasse, don’t go round and round on your own. Seek out someone else — literally or metaphorically — to provide the questions that will uncover your hidden answers.

leadership dot #4458: movers

How do you move a 4-ton elephant? It sounds like the opening line of a joke, but in Africa, it was a serious problem. A zoo wanted to retire an elephant and move it into a sanctuary for its final years, but this necessitated an hour-long transport.

An “elephant mover specialist” was brought in to do the job. Instead of tranquilizing the elephant, he trained it to associate a “training wall” with treats. This wall resembled one side of the transport cage, so ultimately the elephant willingly walked into the container and was moved.

I think of all the supervisors who do the equivalent of tranquilizing their employees — using their power over their team — instead of spending the time to demonstrate and reward the desired behaviors. It may work in the short term, but to have true long-term success you need to help your staff willingly do what you need them to do. Be like an elephant and never forget that principle!

Source: Need to relocate a 4-ton animal? Call elephant movers. By Gerald Imray for the Associated Press