In the movie Marry Me, math teacher Charlie Gilbert (Owen Wilson) frequently tells his students, “If you sit with the question long enough, the answer will find you.” I think it’s good advice far beyond hypothetical math problems.
You usually achieve better results if you allow yourself time before making a decision or delivering information. When I am contracted for a new workshop or class, I let the topic ruminate for a while. I invariably come across resources I can incorporate or think of exercises that would be appropriate for the session. Whether I am unsure what I should say in a difficult conversation, am stumped about what gift to give for a special occasion or am struggling to decide what to do — all these scenarios become easier if I give them time.
Your subconscious brain is an amazing thing. Let the question rattle around there for a bit and allow the answer to emerge without forcing it.











