#466 before

I have owned one of my dogs for two years this week.  It seems like it has been forever!  Unless I intentionally concentrate, I forget what it was like before her or even before her one-year old sister arrived.  It seems like I have always had these two goldens in my life.

I embrace relationships with people in the same way.  It’s hard for me to remember what it was like before our new CFO was part of cabinet even though she just started in January; the pre-Kelsey/Holly/Ken days even though they are relatively new on staff; or what it was like before my staff had their babies.  

Getting in this comfortable groove is, for the most part, a very good thing.  It’s a sign of fit, competence and overall congruence with who people (dogs!) are and the role they play in my life.  It does remind me, however, that patterns develop very quickly.  It is important to start a relationship off right, during those precious few moments when you are actually thinking about forging a bond.  Invest some conscious thought about how you want the relationship to be before it becomes ingrained and automatic.

— beth triplett
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#392 thumbs up

I recently had a tour of newly developed space that was being utilized for commercial and non-profit use.  Someone asked if a particular company was going to open a facility in this district.  “Their board wants to have a thumbprint, not a footprint” was the answer.

What a great way to consider the options.  You don’t need to think of moves or major projects in terms of an all-or-nothing proposition.  You can have a branch office, an express version of your service, or a kiosk-like storefront.  

Testing the waters is a prudent strategy and one that may preserve options for you down the road.  Think of making just a thumbprint next time you are asked for your time or resources in support of a new venture.  It’s a way to signal that you give the project a “thumbs up” without over committing on the unknown.

— beth triplett
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#387 vessels

In the book Falling Upward, author Richard Rohr contends that you spend the first half of your life building your vessel, and the second half of your life filling it up.  He was referring to spirituality, but I think it applies to many aspects of living.

It can apply to your work in your organization too.  You spend the first months or even years building the infrastructure, policies and staffing that are necessary to implement the vision in the second phase.  

It is a good metaphor to keep in mind whenever you start something new.  The enthusiasm about filling up the vessel may keep you going, but it’s the building part that will get you there.

— beth triplett
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leadership dot #371: tension

I am getting ready to conduct a series of parent orientation sessions in conjunction with our freshmen registration program.  One of the items on the agenda is talking about transitions — and how they are not always easy.

To help illustrate this concept, I use a metaphor from author Peter Senge.  He takes a rubber band and holds one end of the band on his thumb, and then pulls the band up with his other thumb to stretch the rubber.  One end represents “current reality” and the top end signifies “future vision.”  The further the vision is away from the reality, the more tension in (the middle of) the band.

As freshmen come to campus, their vision is much loftier than reality, and much tension ensues.  As things progress, reality and dreams become more aligned — either the future view is modified to be more realistic or the current state of affairs changes as students grow.

I help parents understand that tension is a natural part of the transition process, and reaffirm that they really are not paying us to send their student home without having been changed.  With this exercise, we are reframing the situation that tension is to be expected and that it means something is right, not wrong.

Think about this simple analogy as you enter into a change effort or transition process.  It helps everyone when additional energy is not wasted fighting tension that naturally occurs.

#369 ownership

A colleague called me today asking for a “teaching moment” whereby I could give him some advice.  I love those kind of phone calls!

He is wanting to tackle a process in his organization that crosses departments — meaning that everyone has a piece, but no one owns the process.  Translated, this means that everyone does their own thing and no one (up until now) has bothered to consider the whole process from a client perspective or to be intentional about how it occurs.  He was asking how he could affect change without becoming the “do-er” or permanent owner of the whole thing.

My answer: “sorry.”  As much as he would like to dream up the solution and hand it off, it isn’t a realistic option.  He is asking people who have done things the same way for literally decades to make a change.  They don’t want to; don’t need to; don’t see the purpose for doing so, and are certainly not going to volunteer to own a new process.  His best hope is to focus, over and over and over, on the “why” behind the changes he is proposing; take responsibility for doing the new work himself this year, and hope that those involved will see the improvement.  Next year it will be easier to delegate something that people have actually seen (and hopefully understand.)

After I shared my thoughts, he laughed and said “I knew that is what you were going to say. I knew that I had to do the work; I was just hoping there was another answer.”  

Those with the vision often have to assume the workload in order to see the new ideas implemented.  It is hard for people who are entrenched in a process to even fathom how it could be different, so you must show them instead of just telling them. 

So dream on, my dear friend, and then roll up your sleeves and get to it.

— beth triplett
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#365 just start

I have a button collection — political buttons, advertising buttons, “flair” — you name it, and I likely have one.  That is because my collection amasses 10,632 and counting!  It takes the entire length of my basement, floor to ceiling, to display.

I started collecting buttons quite by accident.  In 1970 (I’ll say it for you: it’s before many of my readers were even born), I hung a few “smiley face” and “peace sign” buttons on a bulletin board.  My family thought it was a collection, so my grandma brought home a few advertising buttons from work, and one thing led to another — now here I am.  One plus one more plus one more, etc. equals ten thousand.



Not quite to that extreme (yet), but the same thing happened with writing a blog.  I had my leadership dots blog address since 2010, but did not write one entry until one year ago today.  Since then I have written 365 musings.  And counting.  

I started on Saturday, June 2 — an odd time to start, but I knew Mike started his new job on Monday, June 4 and I wasn’t sure I could figure out how to publish.  So I thought I needed to test it on Saturday, lest I need to call up Mike for “Geek Squad” assistance.  I didn’t, but then I had started, so of course I had to do June 3, and then every day since.

Both of these are examples of the power of starting.  If someone would have said collect 10,000 buttons or write 100,000 words, it would have been daunting.  But a few buttons I could do, and today’s entry I could manage.

Whatever your goal, the hardest part is the first five minutes of it.  Once you drag out the lawnmower, the grass is as good as cut.  Once you write page one, you’re on the way to a dissertation.  If you take a lesson, you’ll be skiing down the slopes in no time.  If you put your Nikes on, you’re halfway around the block before you know it.

If you’ve taken away anything from this blog, I hope it’s that little things do add up to become big things — if you just begin.

— beth triplett
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#325 all or nothing

I live in one of the 11 states that have “container deposit legislation”, more commonly known as a deposit on beverage cans and bottles.  

I am probably one of the most avid recyclers I know, and I hate the bottle deposit as it is.  To me, it is a vestige of a different time and should be either repealed or strengthened.  When the Iowa law was enacted in 1979, curbside recycling wasn’t even a thought on the back burner.  Bottled water was a rarity.  So deposits only occur on carbonated and alcoholic beverages — so not the millions of water bottles, power drinks or teas that are used daily.  

If given my preference, I would eliminate the deposit that forces me to drag all my pop bottles back to the grocery store instead of conveniently tossing them in my recycle bin.  But if the law is to remain, I would advocate including all beverage containers — not just a select few that make the law even more confusing.  

The middle ground isn’t always the best route to take.  Is there a practice in your organization that was a great idea at the time, but needs to be revisited — to either expand or eliminate?  Do you have a set of rules that apply only to one population but should be broadened (e.g.: why do only 18 year old men have to register for the draft)?  Is there some policy that made sense when enacted, but has lived beyond its time (e.g.: using social security numbers as ID numbers)?

As the bottle laws illustrate, once a policy is set, it becomes difficult to change it one way or the other so it remains in the middle and aggravates everyone.  Today, try to be bold and make one decisive change that warrants an all or nothing call.  

— beth triplett
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#298 whip it

Have you ever seen a line of figure skaters perform what is known as the “whip line”?  The women’s arms are linked together as they form a straight line and then try to rotate the line around the skater at one end who acts as a pivot, with the line “whipping” around her.  It is synchronized skating, where everyone on the team depends on everyone else for safety and performance.

The skater acting as the pivot rotates almost in the same location as the other skaters whip around her in an ever growing radius.  The skater on the end is the one who is whipped the most, as she must skate the fastest and furthest to create the effect.  One slip for her is the most dangerous, as she easily could get run over (and sliced) by the blades of other skaters continuing in the rotation.

Creating change in an organization is a lot like creating a whip line.  Those in the center of the change, the ones who start it, oftentimes have the least impact.  They rotate, but are not affected by the tumultuous conditions on the outside.  The further you go down the line, the more impact the skaters feel — as is often the case with those in organizations.  That great policy that the top leaders suggested — it is the one at the end of the line that feels the greatest implications when implementing it.  Those in the center don’t always feel the speed and magnitude of the change like those on the ends do.

When initiating a change in your organization, you may do well to keep the image of the whip line in mind.  Think of the impact of the last one in the row, rather than just feeling the small impact in your own position.

— beth triplett
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Thanks to Dan Larson for the idea.


#214 baby steps

Different circumstances change the perspective on how you feel about things.

One mile is easy in the sunshine, but the way home is a long journey in ice or heavy snow.

One day at work is easy unless political tensions are high and the thought of fighting the continuous battles for the long term seems daunting.

Losing one pound is manageable, but the thought of losing one times 20 pounds feels inconceivable.

Alcoholics Anonymous promotes taking the sobriety challenge one day at a time.  It is a good mantra for anyone setting new year’s resolutions about anything.  Chip away at the goal by starting.  Take baby steps.  Focus on the now to avoid becoming overwhelmed.

The long view is important and it always helps to have the end in mind before starting a journey.  It also helps to focus first on the first step of that effort so that the impossible seems more within reach.

— beth triplett
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#183 anticipation

What tasks out there are worse thinking about vs. actually doing?

I think about how I put off gathering my tax receipts and doing taxes — but once I start, it never is as bad as I remembered it to be.

Drinking bottles of “chalk” always makes the anticipation of certain medical tests worse than the procedure itself.

The finger prick before giving blood often hurts more than the actual donation.

Studying for the DMV license test and waiting in the endless line is usually more aggravating than taking the actual examination.

Getting bundled up to go for a walk in the winter always feels like more work than the walk itself. 

And thinking about what I should write about as a blog is much more demanding than the actual writing!  Today I am half-way through a year of writing blogs, and I still feel clueless until I actually sit down and open the blogger program, and then words magically appear.

Intellectually, I know all this.  But I still allow the procrastination and angst to eat up more energy than it should.  I need to move my “butt to seat” (see #124) more quickly so I could remove my butt from seat more quickly too!

Resolve today to spend less time dreading and more time doing!

— beth triplett
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