I recently saw Three Billboards outside Ebbings, Missouri, a movie about a woman who posts a larger-than-life message to the sheriff who has yet to capture the person who murdered her daughter. Seven months have gone by without an arrest so Mildred (Frances McDormand) places the billboards thatOKread: Raped While Dying // And Still No Arrests? // How Come, Chief Willoughby?

The movie revolves around her rage which gets expressed in many unhealthy forms, but also about the torment of wanting answers to something that is unanswerable. As the Chief (Woody Harrelson) reports, “some cases are not solved.”

Many things go on in life that seem to make no sense to us. We want answers for illnesses, disasters and deaths although we ware unable to receive an explanation. We want solace when only time can provide an inkling of that most welcome emotion.

Venting your anger on billboards may not be the most effective method of expressing your grief, but the movie does give the viewer many themes to ponder. Maybe you can use its premise and construct for yourself three virtual billboards to vent your frustrations and sorrows in a palatable way. What would your three billboards say?

I'm the chief connector at leadership dots where I serve as "the string" for individuals and organizations. Like stringing pearls together to make a necklace, "being the string" is an intentional way of thinking and behaving – making linkages between things that otherwise appear random or unconnected – whether that be supervising a staff, completing a dissertation or advancing a project in the workplace. I share daily leadership dots on my blog to provide examples of “the string” in action. I use the string philosophy through coaching, consulting and teaching to help others build capacity in themselves and their organizations. I craft analogies and metaphors that help people comprehend complex topics and understand their role in the system. My favorite work involves helping those new to supervision or newly promoted supervisors build confidence and learn the skills necessary to effectively lead their team.

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