One way to build confidence and get over the fear of rejection is to more intentionally track when you propose something and receive a “yes.”
You probably receive more approvals than you realize and focus only on the “no” answers. Instead, consider all these communications that could be denied, but when they aren’t, it’s a win.
- Requesting help from a colleague.
- Offering a suggestion at a meeting.
- Giving feedback on an assignment.
- Suggesting a revised timeline for a project.
- Pitching an idea about where to go on vacation.
- Requesting a variation from a policy.
- Asking your housemate if they want to try a new restaurant.
Every idea or ask is an opportunity for rejection—but on the whole, I believe we receive many more agreements than denials. Don’t let your mind track only the negative responses.

