A colleague of mine asked me to review an important memo before she sent it. After I sent back a few comments, she replied: “Thanks. I usually know the answer when I send it to you, but it always helps to hear you say it.”
For some reason, we trust the counsel from others more than ourselves although it doesn’t have to be that way. It is great to have another set of eyes, but if you don’t have a mentor at your disposal consider the advice you would give someone if they asked you the question you are asking yourself. I’ll bet you are surprised at how often the two align.
Pretending that you’re giving advice to others is a valuable technique not only for work projects but for relationship issues, decisions about home issues or how to approach most problems. If a trusted friend asked, it’s likely we’d quickly have advice to offer. The key is following our own suggestions instead of just giving them.