A colleague of mine asked me to review an important memo before she sent it. After I sent back a few comments, she replied: “Thanks. I usually know the answer when I send it to you, but it always helps to hear you say it.”

For some reason, we trust the counsel from others more than ourselves although it doesn’t have to be that way. It is great to have another set of eyes, but if you don’t have a mentor at your disposal consider the advice you would give someone if they asked you the question you are asking yourself. I’ll bet you are surprised at how often the two align.

Pretending that you’re giving advice to others is a valuable technique not only for work projects but for relationship issues, decisions about home issues or how to approach most problems. If a trusted friend asked, it’s likely we’d quickly have advice to offer. The key is following our own suggestions instead of just giving them.


About the Author leadership dots by dr. beth triplett

I'm the chief connector at leadership dots where I serve as "the string" for individuals and organizations. Like stringing pearls together to make a necklace, "being the string" is an intentional way of thinking and behaving – making linkages between things that otherwise appear random or unconnected – whether that be supervising a staff, completing a dissertation or advancing a project in the workplace. I share daily leadership dots on my blog to provide examples of “the string” in action. I use the string philosophy through coaching, consulting and teaching to help others build capacity in themselves and their organizations. I craft analogies and metaphors that help people comprehend complex topics and understand their role in the system. My favorite work involves helping those new to supervision or newly promoted supervisors build confidence and learn the skills necessary to effectively lead their team.

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