There was one beautiful day last week where we were able to enjoy spring, and then – boom — winter returned. I think that warm weather flirting with us, even just for a brief moment, has made it harder to accept the subsequent drop in temperatures and resurfacing of snow.

There are many scenarios like this where a reprieve sounds like a good idea, but in the end, makes it worse when the new condition is only temporary. While we have no control over Mother Nature, I believe that it is harder to revert back to the original state after experiencing a better one. Examples include: having the puppy sleep in bed with you forever after an alleged one-night free pass from going in the crate; straying from your diet after having “just one” sweet that you have banished; or being even more upset about the required detour after a week of a re-opened path when work temporarily shifted. It would have been easier to have the puppy sleep in the crate, stay away from all sweets, or put up with the detour on an on-going basis.

If you have an unpleasant task or situation, don’t try to make it better for a bit. If you can’t sustain the change, you’re better off staying the course until the end. The discomfort quickly becomes the norm and there is no need to go through the initial pain more than once.

I'm the chief connector at leadership dots where I serve as "the string" for individuals and organizations. Like stringing pearls together to make a necklace, "being the string" is an intentional way of thinking and behaving – making linkages between things that otherwise appear random or unconnected – whether that be supervising a staff, completing a dissertation or advancing a project in the workplace. I share daily leadership dots on my blog to provide examples of “the string” in action. I use the string philosophy through coaching, consulting and teaching to help others build capacity in themselves and their organizations. I craft analogies and metaphors that help people comprehend complex topics and understand their role in the system. My favorite work involves helping those new to supervision or newly promoted supervisors build confidence and learn the skills necessary to effectively lead their team.

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